There’s Nothing Wrong With You

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and thought, “Something’s wrong with my body…”—this chapter is for you.

If you’ve ever felt like your body wasn’t working the way it should…
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from what you see or betrayed by how you feel…
If you’ve lived your life trying to fix your body instead of understanding it—

You are not broken. You are not weak. And you are not alone.

What you are experiencing is not personal failure.
It’s the result of a deep cultural conditioning that has taught us to distrust, manipulate, and disconnect from our bodies. And to do it in the name of health.

When Looking Good Replaced Feeling Well

The Lie We Inherited

From childhood, we’re taught to value how we look more than how we feel.

The messages come in subtle whispers and loud shouts:

• “She lost weight—you look amazing!”
• “You have such a pretty face… if only you toned up a little.”
• “Summer’s coming, time to get ‘bikini ready.’”
• “Don’t eat that, you’ll ruin your figure.”

These phrases don’t just comment on our appearance.
They condition us to believe that our bodies exist to be evaluated, not experienced.

So what do we do?

We chase the performance.
We obsess over the number on the scale, the shape in the mirror, the way clothes fit.
We starve. We binge. We detox. We “start over” every Monday.

We learn to endure our bodies, not live in them.

The Normalization of Disconnection

Society Doesn’t Teach Body Awareness—It Teaches Body Anxiety

You’ve likely never been taught:

• How to feel hunger or fullness cues
• How your energy and emotions are tied to your cycle
• How rest is productive, or how movement can feel good (not just burn calories)

Instead, we learn:

• Hunger is bad
• Rest is lazy
• Fitness is punishment
• Food is either reward or guilt

We are praised when we ignore pain for performance, or silence our cravings for “control.”
And so, without realizing it, we live in a body we don’t trust.

This is not just disconnection. This is a disembodiment crisis.

The “Fix It” Mentality That Keeps Us Stuck

We’ve been sold an idea: that our bodies are problems waiting to be solved.

So we indulge in the “freedom” of a lifestyle we don’t love—late nights, stress eating, skipping movement—and then feel guilt for not being able to snap back when it catches up.

And when it does?
We reach for the quick fix.

“30 days to flat abs.”
“Lose 10kg in 10 days.”
“Try this fat-burning tea.”
“No carbs after 6PM.”

We binge—on sugar, on plans, on shame—then crash.

This cycle keeps us constantly:

• Consuming
• Comparing
• Correcting

But never really connecting.

What Happens When You Live in Survival With Your Body

Here’s the emotional toll of being at war with your body:

• You feel exhausted from constantly managing how you look
• You disconnect from your hunger, pleasure, and pain signals
• You stop trusting your instincts—and defer to programs, apps, and influencers
• You become terrified of rest, softness, weight gain, or aging
• You internalize the belief that you are only lovable if you’re “improving”

And perhaps worst of all?

You start to believe your body is the enemy—when really, it’s been trying to speak to you the entire time.

The Truth About “Feeling Like Something’s Wrong”

Let’s come back to that thought:

“Something feels wrong with my body…”

Here’s what might actually be happening:

• You feel out of sync because you’ve never been taught your body’s rhythm
• You feel confused because culture profits from that confusion
• You feel tired because you’ve been performing health—not practicing it
• You feel ashamed because you’ve been fed shame since childhood

So of course it feels like something is wrong.

But what if nothing is wrong with you?
What if the system that raised you is what’s broken?

Relearning the Language of Your Body

What does it mean to start over—not with another plan, but with curiosity?

It means:

• Sitting with your hunger before shaming it
• Noticing how your body responds to movement, food, rest, and stress
• Asking “What do I need?” instead of “What should I be doing?”

This is the beginning of embodiment—of returning to your body not to fix it, but to feel it.

Healing the Habit of Binge → Guilt → Start Over

Here’s what happens when you stop trying to “fix” your body and start listening:

• You break the cycle of binge and burn
• You stop fearing food or needing to earn rest
• You find peace in consistency, not punishment
• You learn that strength can look soft, joyful, slow

This doesn’t happen overnight. It happens over hundreds of tiny moments:

• The walk instead of the weigh-in
• The nourishing meal instead of the fast
• The breath before the negative self-talk
• The realization that you are worthy—now

The Compassion Rebuild

To rewrite your relationship with your body, you must root your efforts in compassion. Not compliance. Not control. Not comparison.

Compassion says:

• “It’s okay to rest.”
• “You didn’t fail, you’re just learning.”
• “Your body is responding exactly as it should, given everything it’s been through.”
• “You are not a project. You are a person.”

This becomes your new operating system.

And from here, you can build habits, rituals, routines that feel like care—not correction.

You Were Never Meant to Live Disconnected

If no one told you yet:

You were not created to obsess over your weight.
You were not born to live your life on a diet.
You are not meant to punish your body in order to love it.
You were made to be in your body, not just look at it.

You are not too far gone. You are not behind.

You are here.
You are aware.
And you are already returning to yourself.

This is where real wellness begins.

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