That Stuck Feeling Is More Common Than You Think
You wake up and think: “Something needs to change.”
Your energy is low. You don’t feel at home in your body. You know things could feel better than they do right now.
But then what?
You scroll. You research. You download a plan.
And suddenly, you're even more overwhelmed than when you started.
If you’ve ever said,
- “I don’t know where to begin…”
- “Everything feels like too much…”
- “I want to feel better, but I’m stuck…”
You are exactly where this post begins.
Why Feeling Stuck Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Ready
Let’s flip the script.
Wanting to feel better is already a powerful first step.
It means you’ve:
- Noticed the discomfort
- Acknowledged your desire for change
- Opened the door to new possibilities
What often holds people back isn’t laziness—it’s information overload, emotional fatigue, and a lifetime of unsustainable “start over” stories.
Here’s the truth:
You don’t need motivation. You need a roadmap.
Let me show you the one I use with all my clients: The A.K.R. Method — Awareness, Knowledge, and Routine Audits
Step 1: The Awareness Audit
Question: “What’s working… and what’s not?”
Most of us skip this and try to “fix” everything at once. But without awareness, you’re building solutions on top of confusion.
Start here:
Ask Yourself:
- What’s one part of your day I feel good about?
- When do I feel most tired or depleted?
- What habits do I keep starting and stopping?
- What self-talk plays in my head when I “fall off”?
Write it down. Even 3 sentences will shift everything.
You’re not fixing—you’re noticing. That’s power.
Step 2: The Knowledge Audit
Question: “What do I already know—and what’s noise?”
We live in an age of too much wellness information. Keto, intermittent fasting, mobility routines, 75 Hard, intuitive eating, macro tracking… 😮💨
If you’ve ever felt confused, you’re not alone.
This audit helps you gently sort through the chaos.
Ask Yourself:
- What’s something I know my body responds well to?
- What’s something I tried that made me feel worse (physically or emotionally)?
- What habits have I learned that were actually rooted in shame, not care?
Example: Maybe you thought skipping breakfast was healthy—but it just made you moody. Maybe you overtrained trying to “burn off” food.
Knowledge is not about perfection. It’s about discernment.
Step 3: The Routine Audit
Question: “What rhythm actually works for my life?”
Now that you know what’s going on (awareness) and what feels aligned (knowledge), you can begin gently building a routine that respects your season.
The key word here is routine, not rules.
Your routine might look like:
- A morning stretch and a 10-minute walk in the afternoon
- Eating balanced meals that don’t require tracking
- A commitment to sleep before 11 PM 4 nights a week
- Drinking water and journaling instead of scrolling
The point isn’t to do it all. The point is to start where you are—and stay kind when things shift.
If You Still Don’t Know Where to Start…
Let me offer a soft answer:
Start with the smallest thing you know you can repeat.
Here are 5 compassionate starting points:
- Add one glass of water to your morning before your phone
- Stretch for 2 minutes before bed—no music, no mat, just you
- Eat one balanced plate today without overthinking it
- Write down one thing that felt good in your body this week
- Go for a 5-minute walk and don’t call it “exercise”—call it “presence”
✍🏾Chioma’s First Step
Chioma came to me saying,
“Jane, I’m tired. I’m overwhelmed. I want to feel better… but I don’t even know what that means anymore.”
We started with her Awareness Audit.
She realized:
- Her energy dropped every afternoon
- She was skipping lunch, then bingeing in the evening
- She hadn’t moved her body in weeks—but missed dancing
Her first routine?
- A 3-minute morning stretch
- A packed lunch twice a week
- One dance session each weekend
She didn’t wait for perfect. She built momentum from real life.
And within 3 weeks, she told me:
“I don’t feel like I’m forcing myself. I feel like I’m finally listening.”
Gentle Reminders for the Start of Your Journey
- You are allowed to feel lost and still move forward
- You don’t have to “clean up” your whole life—just notice where you’re standing
- Healing doesn’t always look like progress—it often looks like presence
You don’t need a reset. You need a rhythm.
🎁 Want Help Auditing Your Awareness, Knowledge, and Routine?
Inside my Compassionate Routine Blueprint, we walk through each of these audits in detail.
You get step-by-step guidance to build routines rooted in rhythm—not guilt.
🧭 Start your Compassionate Routine Blueprint journey here
You don’t need to figure it out alone.
You just need a soft place to begin.
