You’re not failing at fitness.
You’re trying to succeed in a system that never took your life, energy, or capacity into account.
Let me show you a better way—one that feels like home in your body.”
Most Fitness Plans Weren’t Made for People Like You (or Me)
Let’s be real. Most fitness plans aren’t designed for real life.
They’re made for:
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- People who already love the gym
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- people with 6 days a week to spare
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- The very-disciplined and super-motivated
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- People who don’t mind tracking every step, calorie, and sweat bead
- people who already enjoy the gym
If that’s not you? You’re not broken. You’re just human. you are experiencing a normal human emotion, you are going to struggle when you are new at something
And if you’re a beginner or anyone who’s tried to follow these kinds of plans—only to quit halfway through and blame yourself—I want you to hear this:
It’s not that you hate fitness. You just hate plans that don’t fit your life.
Why Most Workout Plans Fail Real People
Let’s break it down.
They’re built for perfection, not people
You miss one day? The whole plan feels “ruined.” Now you’re behind, discouraged, and likely to quit. or you start to beat your self up, you were feeling yourself, and all that energy that comes with it, now you cannot get your self to work out or even see yourself doing so
They assume a baseline of motivation you probably don’t have (yet)
Most plans are written for people who already like working out. If you’re struggling just to start, they skip the part you need most—building belief. building you up for self eficayc,
you need a certain level of capability to show up consistently to exercise
You need mental capacity, emotional capacity, physical capacity
And you build these in levels, with everytime you expose yourself to a workout, it feels different because you are probably navigating through all these 3
They don’t account for emotions, energy, or real-life chaos
What happens when you’re tired? PMSing? Grieving? Overworked? These plans don’t bend. So you break.
And that’s the cycle, right?
Try → Miss a day → Feel guilty → Quit → Wait until next Monday → Repeat.
So What Should You Do Instead?
You need a different kind of approach—one that doesn’t expect you to become someone else overnight.
You need a plan that starts where you are, not where fitness culture says you should be.
Let me introduce you to something softer. Something smarter.
I call it: The Compassionate Routine.
The “Compassionate Routine” Approach for Beginners
Here’s what makes this approach different:
✅ It starts with awareness, not intensity
Before we talk squats and sets, we look at:
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- What your current day looks like
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- Where your energy naturally rises or falls
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- What kind of movement you don’t hate
This matters more than you think.
✅ It offers 3 levels: Minimal, Intermediate, and Ideal
Instead of “stick to this or fail,” we build flexible tiers:
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- Minimal: Your absolute non-negotiable (e.g., a 5-minute stretch)
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- Intermediate: A walk, a dance break, a 20-min low-impact circuit
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- Ideal: A full workout session, if you have the time/energy
Every day, you win—because every level counts.
✅ It honors your story
You’re not just building muscles.
You’re unlearning guilt.
You’re redefining strength.
You’re choosing kindness over punishment.
That’s real fitness.
What If You Still Don’t Feel Ready?
Totally normal.
Let’s do a mini mindset check-in.
👉🏾 Ask yourself:
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- What story am I telling myself about exercise?
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- Where did I learn that I had to suffer to see results?
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- What if movement could feel like care, not control?
You don’t need to start big. You just need to start kind.
What Beginners Actually Need from a Fitness Routine
Here’s what you really need (and what you’ll build inside the Compassionate Routine Blueprint):
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- A custom rhythm that works with your time, energy, and life
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- A plan for low-motivation days
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- A toolkit of movement options for stress, energy dips, or emotional overwhelm
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- Accountability that encourages, not criticizes
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- Education about your body—not just reps and sets
You Don’t Hate Exercise. You Hate What It’s Been Tied To
If movement has only ever been:
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- A way to shrink your body
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- A punishment for what you ate
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- A tool to chase perfection…
Then of course you don’t enjoy it. You were never taught to.
Inside my programs, we reconnect with movement that feels like:
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- Pleasure
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- Power
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- Permission
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- Presence
Try This: Take the Compassionate Routine Audit
Before you build another plan—pause.
Start with a Compassionate Routine Audit:
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- What’s the smallest movement I enjoy (even a little)?
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- When does my body feel most ready to move?
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- What gets in the way? (Judgment, fatigue, shame?)
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- What would be a win for today?
This is the foundation. And it’s more effective than any 30-day shred.
Real Client Example: From “I Hate Exercise” to “This Feels Like Me”
Meet Ify.
She hadn’t worked out in 8 years. She told me on Day 1: “I don’t do gyms. I hate plans. I’ve failed every challenge I joined.”
Three months later?
She moves 3–4 times a week. She does short mobility videos. She walks more. She plays music and dances when she’s stressed.
She says: “I’ve never felt so proud of doing something so small—consistently.”
That’s compassionate fitness.
You’re Allowed to Build This Gently
You don’t need a plan that bullies you.
You need a rhythm that respects you.
If you’ve always felt like fitness wasn’t for you, I want to invite you to do something bold and beautiful:
💛 Start the Compassionate Routine Blueprint →
You are not lazy. You are not weak.
You just needed a different way in.
And this… this might be the beginning.
